What, exactly, am I writing?
Is it an autobiography or a memoir? There’s a difference, and which you’re writing helps determine the content, tone and style of your book.
Many people use the terms “autobiography” and “memoir” interchangeably, but there is a major difference between the two.
An autobiography is the complete story of your life, from your birth to the present. A detailed record of your entire journey, your autobiography includes all of the important people you’ve known and events you’ve experienced. It should also be 100% factual, which means that even the smallest bits of dialogue must be quoted verbatim.
A memoir, on the other hand, is an introspective look at a specific “slice” of your life, perhaps your years in the military or your relationship with your father. Getting the facts straight is certainly important, but a memoir is a tale told from memory, and the point is to invite the reader inside your mind.
Creating your autobiography
The simplest and most direct way to structure an autobiography is to start at the beginning with your birth and march through to the present day. However, you may wish to set the stage by writing a bit about your parents or grandparents, either at the very beginning or in “flashback” form, so the reader can better understand the forces that shaped you. Of course, the autobiography could start with a pivotal event in your life, then go backwards to set the stage before moving forward to the present. The order in which you tell your life story is completely up to you.
One big problem when writing an autobiography is deciding what to include and what to leave out. You will naturally want to touch upon very important people, places and events in your life, as well as those less important that are still worth including. Move briskly through the less important parts and give extra attention to the more significant ones.
But remember: too much detail in any area can bog down the manuscript and make it difficult to read. Think of your autobiography as a “blueprint” rather than a completely built and furnished structure. Someone should be able to take your blueprint and do a fairly good job of “recreating” you. To do that, they won’t need every single detail.
For more, see “How to Write Your Autobiography.”
Writing your memoir
When writing a memoir, the section of your life presented can take many different forms. For example, it might cover:
- a certain time period (that summer you spent in Europe)
- an event (your involvement in a revolution)
- a long-running series of events (how you built and ran a multimillion dollar corporation)
- your relationship with other people (the many times you served as a chauffeur to the stars)
But before you begin writing, think about how you can use your story to reveal your thoughts and emotions. If your memoir covers your Army days, for example, it won’t be enough to describe what you did as a soldier. Your readers will want to know how you felt about being in the military and how it changed you, for better or worse.
As with an autobiography, a memoir needs to contain enough factual information so that the reader can understand what’s going on. But don’t get lost in endless details. Remember that your reader is primarily interested in your thoughts and feelings, which should be your main focus. A memoir is like an impressionistic painting, detailed enough to set the scene, but mostly concerned with underlying emotions and thoughts.
For more on memoirs, see “What is a Memoir?”
Autobiography vs. memoir
For more reading on the differences between the two, read “Knowing the Difference Between an Autobiography and a Memoir” by Ryan van Cleave
If you’d like help writing your memoir…
Contact Barry Fox and Nadine Taylor, the memoir ghostwriters. Use the contact form on this page to send us a message, or call us at 818-917-5362.
To learn more about autobiographies and memoirs, see our “Memoir Ghostwriter” discussion. And for more on ghostwriters and ghostwriting in general, read our “What is a Professional Ghostwriter?” page.