The question of how to write your autobiography has stopped many people dead in their tracks. They’d like to record their life stories, but aren’t sure how to go about it.
Many people contact me about helping them with their autobiographies, and one of the first issues we deal with is the difference between an autobiography and a memoir.
An autobiography is a book you write about yourself; your life story from the beginning until the present time.
It’s a factual presentation of the “life and times” of the author, while a memoir is an introspective look at a carefully selected portion of the author’s life.
Autobiographies focus on information and facts, while memoirs emphasize emotions and feelings. For more on the differences, see “Autobiography or Memoir?”
If you’ve decided that you’re truly writing your autobiography, here are the steps to getting started.
Start with the basic information you already have. Write down all of the facts you can think of regarding your life. Start with your name, birth date, marriage date and other significant dates. Do the same for your grandparents, parents, siblings, spouse and others who played significant roles in your life.
Then write down all you can remember about these people. Be sure to include your impressions of them and how these individuals shaped your life.
If you have any pictures, diplomas, letters, newspaper clippings, personal items or anything else about or belonging to these people, examine them to refresh your memory and add to your basic information.
Next, talk to relatives, friends, business associates and anyone else who may have pertinent information. Older relatives can often provide a wealth of information about your parents and grandparents. And your siblings, friends and associates can remind you of events and conversations you have forgotten about.
Use other sources of information
Depending on what you choose to emphasize in your autobiography, it might be helpful to send away for copies of birth certificates, school records, military records or other documents that can fill in information gaps.
Start your story
The beginning is an excellent place to start, but sometimes the thought of starting a lengthy story can be intimidating.
You may find it easier to tackle a small piece of the story, then another, then another and so on.
You might, for example, make a list of significant events in your life (for example, the day you met your spouse-to-be, the birth of your first child, your entrance and or exit from the military, graduating from college, opening your business, leaving your spouse, getting fired and so on). Then write a short segment about each event.
Or you might list the five best and five worst moments in your life and write about them.
Or perhaps you might start with the most unusual things that have happened to you.
It’s only important that you begin somewhere. You can piece it all together later.
For more, see “How to Start An Autobiography – 4 Great Examples.”
Pull it all together
Now it’s time to put the pieces together to make an interesting story.
Autobiographies often start with something about the family history to set the stage for the emergence of the book’s star (you). Your birth is also a good place to begin. For added dramatic effect, you may wish to start with a quick look at your life as it is now, or at some dramatic or impressive event in your adult life, then flash back to the beginning.
There is no “correct” way to structure an autobiography. Some life stories lend themselves to a dramatic or non-chronological approach. Others, however, are best told in a simple, straight forward manner. Whatever works for your story is the best approach.
Consider developing a theme
You don’t have to have a theme for an autobiography; you can simply recount the most significant or interesting events of your life.
However, a theme strengthens and sharpens your story. There are innumerable possible themes, including “how my family shaped my life,” “overcoming adversity,” “love is a gift” and “the value of service and sacrifice.” Your theme will usually emerge on its own as you gather material and write about the events in your life.
Once you’ve selected your theme, go back through your material and make sure you’ve selected the incidents that support it. These should be emphasized in your book, with the others given less emphasis or even omitted.
If, for example, your theme is “the value of service and sacrifice,” you may write just enough about your childhood to cover the basic facts before you get right to the point when you began serving and sacrificing – perhaps the day you joined the military or Peace Corps, began adopting orphans, or committed yourself to raising money for the less fortunate.
If your theme is “love is a gift,” you may focus on your relationships with your family, friends and other people throughout life, giving less attention and space to your education and business.
What if you have trouble writing?
If you’ve managed to produce a fair amount of pages that tell your story in a coherent manner, you can hire an editor to rearrange and polish your material. If you find you can’t make yourself write at all, you may want to hire a ghostwriter to do it for you, or dictate the events of your life into a tape recorder and have the ghost turn them into an interesting book.
If you’d like to learn more about writing your life story…
…see my “Memoir Ghostwriter” page.
I’m Barry Fox, a New York Times bestselling author and ghostwriter. If you need help writing your autobiography or memoir, give me a call at 818-917-5362.